Do We Have Massive Unity potential?

Find out if you are a person of unity or division with this 90 second unity assessment.

I am captivated by how Jesus kept bringing people together through love and yet many chose not to accept an invitation to be united to him. As I question how in the world a person could choose division, I am reminded that there are moments in a day that I don’t choose unity and I slip into behaviors that lead to division. Why would I talk about someone behind their back? Or sit and listen to someone bash another person? Lord what a wretched man I am! (Romans 7:24) What shall I do? The answer is beautiful...repent, learn and grow. I have been on a journey to be an apprentice of Jesus that has the sweet aroma of unity and love. This writing and assessment is simply an invitation to join me in a journey of extending love and unity to a world that desperately needs it.

We all know how important unity is in families, marriages, teams, workplaces, churches, countries and pretty much all of human adventures. When we are united it brings synergy, in that we accomplish more together, then we ever could as individuals. Some of the most impressive efforts in history are due to a group of people united in mission. In this season of significant division it made me wonder... Is it possible that we have untapped unity still available to us?

We also know that divisiveness leads to destruction. The evil in our world wants to divide and conquer us. It’s a lesson from ‘Capitan Obvious’ that unity is needed. However the real question is what specific behaviors lead to unity or lead to division. And maybe more applicable, what am I personally doing that leads to unity or leads to division in my relationships, workplace and community?

At this time in our life we are seeing historic levels of division. We are seeing social media campaigns target divided groups using algorithms designed to push content that widen the divide. We are seeing political propaganda that attacks people, pulling them away from their shared values and dreams. We are seeing organizations like churches and nonprofits designed to work together yet are fighting for who owns the truth, and often competing for your resources. And did you ever imagine that a piece of cloth about 4 inches by 6 inches could lead to anger, suspicion and hate?

The common denominator in these challenges of division are simply the heart and behaviors of those involved. In each organization, country or movement we either have hearts of people choosing to conduct themselves as people of unity or people of division. It’s possible that deep in our hearts is rejection, hurt, bitterness and envy. We often feel better about ourself if we put others down, which yields fruit of division. It’s possible we are so insecure that aligning with people who are divisive makes us feel less afraid of rejection. Is it possible that we may be unintentionally behaving in a way that fosters division?

Check out this 90 second unity assessment, circle one answer after each statement:

1. I talk about people negatively to others when the person is not in the room.

  1. Always

  2. Often

  3. Sometimes

  4. Never

2. I would rather not say anything than give someone a difficult truth that might hurt the relationship?

  1. Always

  2. Often

  3. Sometimes

  4. Never

3. When I disagree with someone and they make me mad or upset I pray that God would bless them.

  1. Never

  2. Sometimes

  3. Often

  4. Always



4. I take every chance I get to honor people to others.

  1. Never

  2. Sometimes

  3. Often

  4. Always

5. I realize sometimes that I may not have the best idea or that I may be wrong.

  1. Never

  2. Sometimes

  3. Often

  4. Always

6. I try to be just like other people in look and language, in an effort to be in unity.

  1. Always

  2. Often

  3. Sometimes

  4. Never

7. When someone speaks to me negatively about another I stop the conversation and direct them to speak to the person they are struggling with.

  1. Never

  2. Sometimes

  3. Often

  4. Always

Using the numbers next to your answer total up your score. 7 - 12 you have wonderful opportunity to live with more unity, 13 - 21 you have some areas to still to explore, 22+ you are leaning into a life of unity.

There is a great invitation for all of us to accept. An invitation from Jesus to be united, that leads to beauty in difficult times. Behold, how good and pleasant it is when brothers dwell in unity! Psalm 133:1 (ESV):

Accepting the invitation of unity leads to more peace, love, joy and hope. We can change our family, our city and our country by simple acts of unity. You have heard it said, the world is going to hell, the truth is heaven is coming to this world. You are positioned perfectly to play a vital role as a person of unity. It must be us, as apprentices of Jesus, and it must be now. Ephesians 4:2–3: with all humility and gentleness, with patience, bearing with one another in love, eager to maintain the unity of the Spirit in the bond of peace. Followers of Jesus are invited to wake up, smell the plan of the enemy to divide, and thrive as a person of unity.

See below thoughts around each of the questions you answered.

1. Unity is ... zipping the lip

Gossip, slander and envy are strong unifiers to people who think like each other. It is an evil way to unify. We often gravitate towards people that feel the same about others. Often negative discussions happen about people when they are not in the room. It’s like people bond over slandering about others. This is a behavior all of us followers of Jesus can simply stop engaging in. ‘Zip the lip’ and just do not engage in negative talk about a person who is not in the room.

2. Unity is ... candid love

The Apostle Paul encourages us to speak truth in love. A surprising act of long term unity is giving people feedback that may be difficult and lead to short term relationship awkwardness. A very loving thing to do is be direct with a gentle heart. It’s actually cruel to feel or know something that needs correction and hold on to it because of fear of hurting the relationship. Honest, loving feedback is beautiful and leads to unity.

3. Unity is ... blessing the enemy

Of course we will have people that make us mad, upset, frustrated or even distant. A person of unity recognizes when their heart is hardening towards a person or group. When we recognize it we should take a moment and literally pray that God would bless them and their family. Pray blessings on them, not a prayer like, “God help them change and not be a jerk”. Maybe something like, “God, I lay this person at your feet. Please bless them and come into this situation.”

4. Unity is ... a contest

For those of you who like competition you might be surprised that the way to unity is to win. Paul the apostle tells us we are to out do each other in honoring one another. We take every opportunity to speak positively about and to others. If there is someone we are struggling with we honor them by reflecting and communicating the positive attributes of that person. We can use all sorts of ways to honor others; texting, email, Instagram, Facebook, comments online, at family gatherings, in the workplace. Try and be the best at honoring others.

5. Unity is ... eating humble pie

A brilliant mentor friend once told me that he try’s to remember he may not always have the best idea or be completely right every time. We are asked in the Bible to ‘consider others more significant than ourselves’. We can be passionate and determined, while being humble and gentle.

6. Unity is ... not uniformity

It’s often thought unity is about being the same as others. However, God gifted us all with different gifts, abilities and passions. Unity is having the same vision in mind, yet how to get there can look very different. If we feel being the same is the key to unity it will actually create clicks or cults, thus causing more division. Embrace those who are differently seeking the beautiful things of God.


7. Unity is ... blowing up the triangle

We often get caught in the middle of a communication triangle. You think, “I don’t want to be in the middle of this” yet you are. The behavior we need to model is simply stopping the conversation and helping the person determine the best way to go to those they are upset with. We are determined to stop triangles and coach mature emotional conversations. Once you have stopped the conversation, encourage them to speak directly with those they are upset with. Follow up later and ask them how that went as a form of friendly accountability.

As you, your family or team experience this assessment, which one or two of the 7 stick out as areas you would like to grow in?

I encourage you to talk with a friend about this. Compare your scores, ask them for their thoughts, and hold each other accountable in being people of unity.

Also, please share this assessment with as many people as you can through social media, email or carrier pigeons. We have this incredible opportunity now to be united through simple behavioral changes.

Jesus asks that we would be one as He, The Father and Holy Spirit are one. Isn’t that incredible. We are invited to be that close with God and each other. My friends, this time in history we have through Jesus...massive unity potential.


-Cory Sondrol

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